We live in a world today where it’s all too easy to become distracted by things which really aren’t that important.
The problem is, we are constantly being bombarded with messages designed to make us carry out a particular action, and this then causes unwanted distractions in our lives.
However, staying in the present can help to reduce your stress levels dramatically.
By following these 5 steps to being a stress free mom you could soon go a long way to feeling a lot calmer and less fatigued.
Step 1 – Identify Your Worries
The best way is to jot down each worry as it comes into your head. By recording the thoughts causing you additional stress, you will reduce the level of anxiety you’re feeling.
While this sounds a little basic, by writing it down you will gain a “visual clarity” you otherwise wouldn’t. You’ll find being able to contain and manage those issues a lot easier.
Another thing to note is, by writing down your worries you will quickly realize how often the specific worry bogs you down.
Lots of moms say “I worry all the time”, but if you were to go through a day writing them down, you may realize it is only happening once or twice each day. This then gives you the re-assurance, things aren’t as bad as you first thought.
Keep note of any worries you have for at least a couple of days or until the period of stress you are feeling passes.
Step 2 – Take A Reality Check
Once you have identified and written down the things causing you stress, you need to ask yourself certain questions: “What are the chances that this problem is actually going to re-occur?
Can I do something about it, and if so, have I already done them? By doing this, you’ll see how these worries may be exaggerated in your mind. Also, it will demonstrate you actually have things under control more than you think.
Step 3 – Focus On Your Breathing
Breathing is a very simple but powerful way of helping you to anchor yourself in the present. Whenever you find a certain situation difficult, start by taking few deep breaths and focus on just the breathing.
You will find, simply counting your breaths can help to gain control over your stress more effectively. For example why not count to four as you inhale (breathe in) and then count to four as you exhale (breathe out). By doing this exercise, you’re asking your brain to focus on the counting, rather than the worry.
In time, you’ll find you don’t need to rely so much on counting, but instead the breathing alone in order to help reduce stress in your life.
Step 4 – Relaxing Both Mind And Body
Emotions often present themselves physically as well as mentally. Feeling stressed frequently leads to muscle tension, or other aches and pains. Being able to relax your body during these times helps to relax your mind as well.
Most of us are unaware of how tense our muscles have become, or how shallow our breathing is while feeling stressed.
Any time you feel stress, find a comfortable spot to sit down. Close your eyes and take 5 minutes to deep breath down to your belly. Inhale through your nose for a count of 5 (slowly) before breathing out through your mouth for another count of 5 (slowly).
In order to help relieve the tension you feel in your body you need to begin contracting and then slowly releasing every muscle throughout your body. Start with your feet and work up your body through your legs, bottom, fingers, hands, arms, neck and face.
This may take between 5 and 10 minutes to complete. Whilst performing this simple exercise, remember to take slow deep breaths, inhaling through your nose and exhaling through your mouth.
Step 5 – Developing A Plan
A plan can help you to break the cycle of stress you may be feeling. The more stressed you become the more out of control you feel, leading to a viscous cycle. By writing steps you can take, helps you to gain a better handle on the situation you find yourself in.
It’s a good idea to write down a list of activities/responsibilities which cause you the most worry or overwhelm. Write down 2 or 3 steps to help deal with them. By doing this you are gain clarity over what each worry is.
Don’t underestimate the power of writing them down. Despite its simplicity, the very act of “seeing” the problems in clear words leads to a calming effect, your mind will never be able to achieve just by thinking about it repeatedly.